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What about rules? "You want to tell me what the hell is going on?"

I have to remind to myself that family rules should apply to everybody, and rules define what's allowed in a family! In contrary, there were personal limits mostly applied in my family, and they were so far from self- called( family rules). There were unwritten rules, and by just listening to the same " music" the whole time , was a terrible feeling! And I was the one who mostly got hurt , because I was a female, the only one female who looked beyond that reality!
For instance, I felt something that says " Ana , friends are only inside the classroom! Do you understand? We want you to be home after 1:30 ( the last class)!"
In my point of view that was not a family rule, that was a personal limit! So, for my brother Edi there were no rules at all, he could play after school with his friends, he could party with his friends, he could have girlfriends, he could have a beer, he could smoke, or even get home after midnight ( because he was a male, a so called "man" from my father).
Edi was the boss of me as well! Even if he was only 2 years older than me, he had the " right" to scream at me, to even yell at me, and to even hit me! He was the opposite of me!
The only right that ( I actually still remember) that I loved in my house was the right of studies! I've always found myself in the middle of books, reading for hours ( after I have done all my chores around the house for sure as a female!) And as a matter of fact the fewer rules in a family, the better life you will give to your children!
How about personal limits? They shouldn't exists at all, because if you apply them, you will only destroy what you have " created" as parents, you will destroy what's called Child!