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"Kush e njeh qellimin mund te vendose, kush vendos gjen qetesi, kush gjen qetesi eshte i sigurte, kush eshte i sigurte mund te reflektoje, kush reflekton mund te permiresohet..." ( Anonim)

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Njerezit jane si kliente per njeri tjetrin. Hera heres zhduken dhe pastaj dalin ne skene serisht. Ne labirintet e jetes i humbet nga syte, por mos u shqeteso. Gjate kohes qe nuk i sheh nuk rrine pa ngrene, thjesht bejne pazarin ne vend tjeter. Ushqehen te heshtur diku larg, duke evituar te kalojne para dyqanit te vjeter.

Ne jemi si kliente, por jo tamam kliente. Jemi dhe si investitore. Investojme tek njerezit qe na rrethojne. Mundohemi ti ndryshojme, ti bejme si vetja, madje me te mire se vetja. Qe pastaj te na pelqejne edhe me shume.

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Kjo kenge po me ben shume te ndjeshme sot.

E kam edhe une nje kenge si cdo njeri. Dhe shpesh here me duhet te punoj qe melodia e kenges sime apo dhe fjalet e saj te dalin positive, shprese-ndjellese. Dua te fokusohem vetem tek ky aspekt. Dua te shoh realitetin e gotes sime gjysem te mbushur me uje. Ka dite qe shoh me shume problemet, dhimbjen, frikerat, pasigurite dhe eshte atehere kur me duhet ti drejtohem Zotit te me re-frame, menyren time te menduarit. Dhe ndodh sa here qe flas me te.

I call it "my therapy session with daddy." I cry my heart out in prayer and he calms me down and i find myself to be in a strange state of peace. Like the Bible says in the letters apostle Paul wrote to the Philippians church in the 1st century, to have a peace that passes understanding (i can't understand it, how one moment i am agitated and after talking to him, i am content) and the problematic situation might not change at all ,the problems are still there, they could even become worse,yet i am at peace because he has helped me see the situation with a different perspective, and even given me strength to face harder things.

One of those harder things is to help treat people with all sorts of problems from borderline personality disorder, PTSD, bipolar dis, depression, substance abuse,anger management issues,sexual addictions, co-depedent/ dysfunctional relationship issues,schizoaffective dis, delusional and even clients who are so out of touch with reality that sadly all one can do is maintenance work with them and moreover Trichotillomania ( hairpulling) yeah even that..... like the Bible says in Ecclesiastes : 'there's everything under the sun and nothing is hidden from it ,' as long as there's people around. But when i see the group, in the therapy session, when i see i am surrounded by them all in one room, knowing they could trigger one-another to harmful behavior( after all, they all have 2 or 3 dis at the same time, almost all have Suicidal ideation) when I see them, and their interaction with each-other, I marvel at humanity. ) I see strength. I see determination.I see the tools they can use ,that God himself has equipped them w/o them knowing to find the healing inside. I see that God loves people equally the same even though they have gone through so much pain. I believe that pain has been for a reason, which i don't know because it's in God's plans. But one reason i can find is they are in the clinic where i am at so i may pray for them and their healing.

I see pain but amids the pain, God helps me see hope and that's why I sing.

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All men dream but not equally.Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds,wake in the day to find that it was vanity;but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men.For the may act their dream with open eyes and make it possible. Proverbs 29:18

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"Let the refining and improving of your own life keep you so busy that you have little time to criticize others." (H. Jackson Brown Jr.)

Te qenit krishtere ( midis te tjerash) do te thote te ballafaqosh vetveten. Pa ballafaquar vetveten nuk ka mundesi te shohesh dhe te pranosh dobesite, dhe nqs nuk shikon dobesite nuk ka sesi ti ndryshosh ato. Christianity thrives on self-introspection because bounds are you will see in yourself at least ONE thing that is displeasing to God and so it would motivate you to change,that is if you love God.
A tool to do that is confession.
Cdo jave,edhe disa here ne jave me duhet te 'zbraz' thesin tim te ngarkuar qe peshon dhe me rendon zemren aq shume sa mezi leviz, shoqeve te mia. Spiritual obesity or sth? Nje pjese tek libri James ne Bibel thote : "confess to each-other and you will be healed" Dhe patjeter qe une jam per sherim,cdo lloji qe ai mund te jete, fizik, emocional, shpirteror,psikologjik, etj.
Por keto kohet e fundit, kisha ndjere nevojen te ngrija ne nje stad me te larte kerkimin tim per ndryshim. Ishte nga ato situatat kur e di qe dicka nuk shkon por nuk e di ku ta drejtosh gishtin.
Like the quality of your behavior or even your way of thinking is not qualitative anymore. By quality i mean love, patience, joy, peace, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control- the Jesus teachings.
Dhe duke analizuar sjelljen time vura re sa a paduruar jam sjelle keto kohet e fundit kundrejt prinderve te mi, sa kokeforte per gjera qe nuk duhet te jem,dhe deri diku jam kacafytur te kem paqe me te keqen qe ballafaqohem duke degjuar historite e klienteve te mi( nga vetvrasjet psikotike deri ne dhunime te tmerrshme qe i ben njeri tjetrit)
Pastaj ndjeva dhe deshiren per ti pyetur njerezve me te afert ne jeten time se cfare shohin ata tek mua ne karakterin tim qe te mund te punoj per ndryshimin e tyre. Mora 4 pergjigje te ndryshme, more gentle in communication, be more humble, more patient, and wiser. Keto dhe disa te tjera kane qene gjithmone pjese te miat qe me eshte dashur pune per ti ndryshuar dhe akoma dalin....., megjithate sa te jem ne kete toke duke marre fryme, do punoj mbi to,sepse my God is a holy and pure God and he is pleased with people who strive for being pure in speech,in thought,in action.

Tani jam duke degjuar kengen nga M. J.-The man in the mirror.
I'm starting with the man/woman in the mirror
I'm asking him/her to change his ways
And no message could have been any clearer
If you wanna make the world a better place
Take a look at yourself and make a change.

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Po citoj ato që tha lorie
"Let the refining and improving of your own life keep you so busy that you have little time to criticize others." (H. Jackson Brown Jr.)


Pastaj ndjeva dhe deshiren per ti pyetur njerezve me te afert ne jeten time se cfare shohin ata tek mua ne karakterin tim qe te mund te punoj per ndryshimin e tyre. Mora 4 pergjigje te ndryshme, more gentle in communication, be more humble, more patient, and wiser. Keto dhe disa te tjera kane qene gjithmone pjese te miat qe me eshte dashur pune per ti ndryshuar dhe akoma dalin....., megjithate sa te jem ne kete toke duke marre fryme, do punoj mbi to,sepse my God is a holy and pure God and he is pleased with people who strive for being pure in speech,in thought,in action.

Take a look at yourself and make a change.

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Lorie, cdo mesazh qe percjell te kjo teme te japin ndjesi paqeje te brendshme kur i lexon.

Te pershendes!

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Furia- seksuale, edipale, brutale, politike , magjike- na con ne lartesite me te shndritshme dhe ne thellesite me te zymta. Nga furia del krijimi , frymezimi, , origjinaliteti, pasioni, por edhe dhuna, dhimbja, shkaterrimi i paster e i patrembur, dhenia dhe pritja e goditjeve, nga te cilat nuk e marrim veten kurre. Perendite e Terbimit na ndjekin nga pas ; Shiva hedh vallen e tij te terbuar per te krijuar, por edhe per te shkaterruar. ...
keshtu jemi gatuar , keshtu e qyteterojme veten per te fshehur kafshen e tmerrshme njerezore brenda nesh : te ekzaltuarin , te gjithefuqishmin, veteshkaterruesin, te papengueshmin zot te krijimit. E ngreme njeri tjetrin ne lartesine e gezimit. E shqyejme njeri-tjetrin gjymtyre pas gjymtyre.....

(flashi im Salman-ist per sonte)

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Per mua eshte lufte te gjej paqe dhe kur shkruaj per te -perforcohet.
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My own "Eat,Pray,Love" story.

Keto dy muajt a fundit kane qene cuditerisht te mbushura me teme Aziatike. Ne dasmen e G, u vesha me nje fustan kinez dhe freskoren kineze. Me shume dukesha une Aziatike sesa S qe eshte vertet nga ato vende. Megjithate shkembimi ishte interesant, une u vesha sipas kultures se saj, ajo mesoi valle popullore prej meje dhe u informua prej programit mbi nje sere traditash shqiptare. I mbeti ne mendje shpulla qe i jepet dhenderrit kur merr nusen. Patjeter, who wants to miss THAT?
I can understand someone wanting to avoid the bouquet throwing, but not that.
Nuk zgjat shume, kur ne sajtin e mental health , njihem me yoga-n. Nje nga terapistet atje me fton te provoj disa ushtrime bashke me klasen e saj dhe une pak skeptike, iu nenshtrova udhezimeve. Por per cudi yoga paskesh qene aq perfekte per mua sa po behet praktike.
Me vone, W, shoqja ime nga Liberia, me inkurajoi duke me ftuar ne restorantin tone te preferuar Tailandez. Dhe J ,vajza qe sa u pagezua ne kishen tone, dhe qe eshte nga Kina, me jep nje dhurate tradicionale kineze. Dhe s'ka shume qe jam njohur me V, nje vajze po nga Kina,Shangai, shume e embel dhe inteligjente me dhuron nje shall kinez te mendafshte dhe shumengjyresh vetem se i dhashe nje ndihme te vogel. I felt so undeserving. What i had done was so little. I felt unreasonable guilt even,( that needs to be addressed another time) and almost like saying but did not say: "I served you just for the sake of serving,but not to get anything in return." But I accepted it ,rationalizing that she is behaving out of tradition and culture and therefore my conscience was not violated either.
Coming back to Albanian traditions now, I wonder why I don't have the same love and enthusiasm for our traditional costumes as i do for Chinese/Indian/Middle Eastern ones? I wonder how I would feel wearing an Albanian costume. Would I feel proud?
They are beautiful.
And as far as food, I am a die hard fan of Meditterrean cuisine, especially my mom's cooking, her fresh warm homemade bread tastes so good. Her cooking reminds me of this brief conversation my 3 year old nephew had with my sister:
L----What are you eating E?
E----I call it 'buke thate ' mom.


I miss Albania.

L.

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Keto kohe kam mesuar shume mbi thellesine dhe kompleksitetin e njeriut. Mahnitem. Entuziazmohem pa mase.Jam gjithmone ne kerkim te nje rreze shprese per ndryshim, per te pare ne anen pozitive te gjerave. Shikoj njerezit qe nuk kane as sensin me te vogel te vetvetes, qe nuk e konsiderojne veten njerezor prej traumave qe kane bere dhe kane marre. Shikoj tek varen ne nje fije shprese kur thone: Jam gati te vras veten. Nuk jetoj dot me kete perbindesh qe jam.
Dhe sa here degjoj ato fjale dridhem perbrenda por ndjej edhe shprese qe personi me te cilin flas po konsideron jeten. Vete fakti qe kerkon ndihme, hapi i pare i te qenit i hapur eshte gjysma e betejes. Rendesi ka nje fije shprese,me jep nje fije dhe une mund te punoj me te. Me jep dicka prej vetes tende qe une te mund te kapem dhe ta pasqyroj ate shprese tek ty ,disafish.
As long as you are alive, there is always hope. As long as you are breathing, you got a chance in life.
The statistics are sobering:
Every 40 seconds some one commits suicide.
One billion people live on less than 1 dollar/day.
1 out of 4 live in absolute poverty.
17.000 children die of starvation.
3 million people each year are infected from HIV.
1 in 5 women become victims or targeted victims of rape.

Cdo vit, organizata (faith based, non-profit ) Hope WorldWide e mbeshtetur prej kishes sime does fundraising for the poor called Harvest Walk. In being sober about reality it helps( at least my conscience) to see that we can do our small part for the poor.

Kjo eshte videoja e bere prej kishes sime per Harvest Walk for the Poor, and some of my friends are in it. Enjoy and Be inspired.

http://www.youtube.com/match?v=XZ8ouM3WJ7I

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